Okay, so in reality we know that a notion as grandiose as perfection is not actually attainable. Let’s be real about it, no matter how good a boyfriend or lover you are, you’re always gonna do shit that is gonna piss her off at some point. Plus, along with being unattainable, perfection would actually be boring in real life. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t still strive for it.

Now obviously, every girl is different and what is perfect for one doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to be perfect for the next, so you’re going to have to know a little bit about the girl you’re interested in. Like they say, variety is the spice of life, so it’s a good thing that women are forever keeping us guessing. With that said, there are some generalisations we can make that should make any man a more attractive proposition and if nothing else, give you more of a chance than you might otherwise have. Before we start, let me just say, I’m not going to go into the emotional side of things too much. Being sensitive to her needs and listening and being supportive; all these things should be obvious.

Be confident.

I’ve yet to meet a girl who didn’t respond to confidence. Trust me when I tell you that no woman wants some wet guy who is so unassured that he is crippled by his own lack of confidence. It’s okay to be humble and there is nothing wrong with recognising your shortcomings, if only to help you acknowledge the areas in which you can look to improve, but believe me when I say that not many girls are going to be attracted to someone who is self-deprecating and who exudes apprehension and uncertainty. Believe in yourself and your own worth. If you believe that, then you will radiate confidence and women will sense that and you will instantly become more attractive to them.

Don’t be arrogant.

This is the flip side to the above point. Confidence is good. Even being a bit of a dick is good. But being an arrogant arsehole is never…repeat never, a good look. You have to find that line between being a bit cocky and a bit of a cheeky chap, but also being a nice guy who isn’t going to hurt her. Girls don’t like boring, even the ones that want to be in a safe relationship want a bit of danger and excitement, and even if they don’t admit it, most of them like it when a guy is a bit of a dick. But be too much of one and then you go from being a nice guy who with an edge and a bit of wildness, to just being a douchebag. And no-one likes a douchebag.

Make effort.

Might sound obvious right? But it’s one of the easiest things to forget, especially for guys in long term relationships. It doesn’t matter off you’ve been with a girl for one month, one year or 10 years, she still wants and deserves to be treated. That doesn’t have to mean money, it just means doing something that will show you care and have been thinking about her. Flowers maybe. Or cooking a surprise dinner or taking her for a picnic. Could be anything really depending on the girl and the type of relationship you have. The same applies for when you’re first getting with a girl. If you want to blow her mind, do the things that other guys won’t. Obviously that doesn’t mean propose to her on the first date, but coming up with something original that shows you have a bit more about you than the next guy can really make you stand out from the crowd.

Make her feel sexy

. Every girl, no matter who she is, wants to be made to feel sexy. She wants to feel like she’s the only girl in the room when the two of you go somewhere. This is less of an issue at the beginning of romantic involvement, but after time it can be easy to take this for granted. It goes both ways as well, because if she feels sexy, she’ll be more inclined to make the effort that she did when you first met. It a circle of positivity that should lead to both of you feeling self positive and attractive which should in turn lead to a better sex life.

Be ambitious.

What I mean by this is that you need to have something about you. Some girl are happy to have a guy who just wants to stay in all day and not really do anything, but on the whole, women like a guy who has drive and wants to achieve things. Someone who wants to know things, learn things and has dreams. Never underestimate how sexy women find ambition, especially when they first meet you. A guy with a plan, hunger for achievement and who actually has something to say, is much more attractive to women than someone who just floats by in life with no aims or drive. This is not to be confused with discontent, because most women don’t want a project, but someone who knows what he wants and has the hunger to go after it is a major plus in the eyes of most women.

So that’s it for now. Like I said, there are some obvious things that I haven’t mentioned because they are exactly that; obvious. Being supportive and honest for instance. Goes without saying. Other things, like not being controlling or overly jealous should also be things that should not need to be explained (if you are a really jealous or controlling guy, and want to know what to do, check this out HERE). I’ve also not gone into the sexual side of things because there is more than enough advise on here already in terms of that (if you want to know more read ‘How to be the best she’s ever had‘). But try to follow those five steps and at the very least you’re going to be well ahead of the rest of the pack.